Every year, I like to post this message that I wrote a few years back, but updated due to changes in my life. It’s for those of us out there who might be sad over the holidays. I’m here to say it’s okay to have an ordinary day.
I get that many people are happy and filled with love for family, festivities, food and gifts. Others are majorly depressed and even suicidal.
I used to fall into the majorly depressed category on Christmas, so I took the pressure off by not celebrating it. No tree. No gifts. No special food. No family. None of that stuff. It’s not that I’m heartless or not a loving person. It’s that I have to put myself first and do things a certain way in order to survive… and to stay sober.
It’s okay if you treat the holidays as any other day too. It really is! Don’t consider it as giving in to depression. Don’t feel like you are less than because you can’t keep up with the others. Don’t feel horrid because you can’t feel gratitude for anything right now. Just let the day pass.
Don’t put pressure on yourself to be happy. Don’t feel guilty if you are sad, mad or hurt. Don’t worry about disappointing others. Give yourself permission to survive even you are hurting. Trust me when I say I understand how you feel.
I woke up today and did my usual blog jobs that I do every morning. In other words, it’s a typical day for me. One thing that is different is that I now live near Derrick and Skylar. I will be spending most of the day with them. But it’s still very chill.
I have no decorations at my apartment, but Skylar and I put up a tree at their apartment. There are plenty of gifts under it. No one shopped for special food. No one is dressing up for the occasion. We are just going to hang out together. Derrick and I both love to keep things as simple as possible. It’s what we love. It’s what we need. It’s what we must do.
My wish for everyone is to just be okay with an ordinary day. It really is freeing to let go of the pressure. Everyone deserves that freedom!
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